What about talking of the violence in the society and other such bad news. They are great materials to talk in a debate, but not on a first date. Why not to focus more and flatter her about her dressing style rather than talking of violence and such other subjects that can take the romance away. This also means that exclude any talk of her job, unless she shows any inclination towards it. Who knows her boss? He/she might be the villain in her life. Why enter unknown territory and kill your chances. Same goes for her family.

How about talking of health? That is another land mine to avoid. Someone dear to her may be having serious health problems and talking about that will certainly not result in a romantic evening. Better to speak of such things in a hospital, but not on your first date with a beautiful woman you want to win over. So do you now think that if you boast about your achievements, or money, you will be impressing her? Unless she is after money herself, (in that case you should drop her immediately), avoid talking of money or boasting about your achievements. She will guess things positively by your manner and confidence in talking.

Most of the population is auditory. People hear and make guesses. Moods can be created with a beautiful talk and mood can be killed by the bang of noises. Remember that on your first date. You wish to create a mood to get another date and then another till you get a lifemate. Better to try and create the mood for that with a talk that is soothing to the nerves, exciting for the heart and brings laughter. Avoid everything that kills the mood. Enhance everything that can build the mood.

In this post I’m going to give you 12 Effective (and Slightly Badass) Ways to be the Sexiest Guy in the Room.

1. Carry yourself slowly.
Separate yourself from all the men rushing around by carrying yourself slowly where ever you go. Pick up your wallet slowly, turn your head slowly and kiss slowly, all with grace and power. Women will immediately notice your aura of sex appeal.

2. Relax, lean back.
Be confident in yourself, and let it show through by being relaxed and not anxious.

3. Hold eye contact for longer time than comfortable.
If done right this can be a huge turn on from across the room. Don’t come across as a stalker, though.

4. Smell good.
A no brainer, really! All women are attracted to a good scent.

5. Do things you love.
You will never look calm and sexy if you are at a place that you don’t wanna be. Be a man, and do the things you love.

6. Smile.
Few things are more attractive than a genuine smile.

7. Be a gentleman.
Always hold the door, pull out chairs, etc. So easy, yet so many men don’t do it.

8. Be yourself.
Don’t pretend to be someone else. This is really important; you need to keep your congruence. Be consistent with your thoughts and actions.

9. Keep the sparkle in your eyes.
They say that the eyes are the mirror to your soul. And if you want her desire, you need to have burning hot eyes. Practice smiling just with your eyes, it can be very powerful.

10. Have good looking skin.

11. Be well groomed.

1. “You look amazing.”
When was the last time you complimented your partner on her looks? A
heartfelt comment such as this can be a powerful and instant ego
booster, can help her forget a bad day at work, and most of all, can make
her feel loved and appreciated. You can never go wrong with a few
choice words, but be careful not to overdo it. Nothing ruins a moment like
the threat of routine and reducing it to something so commonplace. Plus,
you might come off as insincere if that’s all you ever tell her.

2. “Come here.”
If you are in the middle of a fight and you feel that there is still a long way
to go before you kiss and make up, asking her to “Come here” and giving
her a tight squeeze may just be the starting point of resolving your
differences.

3. “I never knew what I did good to deserve you.”
There is no need to consult a dictionary or a big, fat self-help book if you
are looking for romantic things to say. What you need to do is look into
your heart instead. With this line, you are admitting that you do own up to
your shortcomings but you appreciate having her in your life.

4. “Holding you just feels so right.”
Physical intimacy is a big factor in any relationship. By telling her how
right you feel whenever you are together, your closeness as a couple will
be enhanced.

5. “Meeting you is the best thing that ever happened to me.”
If you feel like you’re running out of romantic things to say, a random
sampling of your feelings every now and then is definitely the way to go.
This is a common romantic line that will not make her think you got it
straight out of a movie – because it is so simple; but if you say it in a
heartfelt way, it will definitely melt her heart.

6. “I miss you.”
Absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder and if you have not seen
each other for some time, saying, “I miss you” in person or even over the
phone is necessary.

7. “Do you even realize how much I love you?”
This line, or a simple “I love you” is still the simplest romantic line that you can ever think of. Why do you think a lot of people make a big deal out of saying it?

It’s not only a matter of knowing what romantic things to say, but knowing
how to say them is just as essential. Now that you know, perhaps the
most important yet, is to whom you say them.

Here’s a rundown of the some of great dating ideas for geeks on a budget.

An Evening at Home:

Sounds lame, right? We do this all the time so it’s easy to disregard what makes a night like this special. Staying home is our usual fallback position. This is what you do when you don’t wanna do anything special. Everybody needs to just chill in their crib every now and then.

That’s why a special evening requires you to make your home an event, a destination. Clean up, add some flowers, set the mood with candles and music, and dress the part. No jeans or sweats — save that for the next day.

The meal will likely be the centerpiece of the evening. Cooking is one of the most romantic things you can do for a date (provided you do it at least adequately). Nothing shows affection like a home-cooked meal. My evenings almost always start with a little garlic simmering in olive oil, maybe followed by some chopped onion or minced fresh ginger. From there, I can easily steer the meal towards a curry, some pasta sauce, or even a tasty bruschetta topping.

Don’t like to cook? Then choose something easy that can be prepped ahead of time. Marinate some chicken in lemon juice, garlic and pepper. Throw this into a skillet or onto a grill and serve with a side salad and bread. Total cooking time: 15 minutes. Pasta is also easy and quick to make, and can often be as elegant as anything you order in a restaurant. If you’re completely useless in the kitchen, buy a good pizza crust (even Boboli will do) and you and your date can have fun dressing it up with your favorite toppings.

Afterwards, relax with a good movie. I prefer old Hollywood classics because something about black-and-white film sparks the romantic in me. Casablanca is a great date movie, filled with intrigue and romance and one of the most iconic screen couples of all time, Bogie and Bergman. Film noir is also a great genre choice, especially if it’s raining outside. Need something to lift your spirits? Pick a new rom-com or a classic chuckler. For my money, you can never go wrong with the hilarious films of Preston Sturges, especially Sullivan’s Travels.

If it’s the sort of date that’s gonna last all weekend … congratulations! Drink lots of water. For extended viewing pleasure, I’d recommend a binge involving a gripping TV show on DVD like Damages.

There are many ways to be intimate at home besides the obvious one.

It may be a good time to look through pictures of your last adventure together, whether it was a weekend at the beach or just goofing around in the mall photo booth. Framing one of those pictures makes for a great memento of the evening, as well.

And music doesn’t have to be in the background. Ever have an album party with someone? You each bring an album that means the world to you (I’d have a hard time choosing between The Beatles’ Revolver and Joe Jackson’s Look Sharp) and give it a listen in its entirety. Provide a commentary if you want — what you like, what this or that lyric means — or just let the music speak for itself.

In short, it doesn’t matter if your date involves a prime seat at a fancy restaurant or eating take-out Chinese on your couch at home. It’s the connection with your mate that matters. And if you work it right, there’s nothing more intimate or uninhibited than being in the comfort and safety of your own crib.

More Free Stuff:

What else can you do to have a great date on a budget? It’s a long list but here are some highlights.

Free stuff: Too often we blindly follow the mass delusion that anything good must cost money. Not so! From film screenings to art gallery openings, there are many cultural events out there that won’t cost you a dime. Rent a movie for free from your library for the above evening at home. Thrifty theater-lovers can often find “pay what you can” performances of shows. These might not fall on weekend nights, but the thrifty dater knows to be flexible.

Get outdoors: Spending time in nature makes for a great date. You’re being physically active, seeing the splendor of the world, and it’s the opportunity for great conversation. Hit the beach, take a hike, or throw that bike in the car and just go.

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1) Going straight for the naughty bits

You’ve got to be sensitive to the fact that a woman is more likely to be irritated than aroused when a man dives for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes’ perfunctory kissing. While you might get to feel the goods, you’re not going to be invited back.

2) Not knowing how to kiss sensitively

Passionate or sensitive, firm or gentle, good kissing is an art form which lubricates the wheels of sex and gets everyone in the mood for more intimacy. Learn how to kiss, and do it well. That doesn’t mean sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around like you’re trying to floss her teeth.

3) Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to our penises. So if you touch her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you masturbate, she’s most likely to howl with pain – and then kick you out of bed. Remember: the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, in a much smaller area. Treat it with respect. It’s the only organ in the human body that has no function other than to provide pleasure.

4) Not stroking and caressing her

A woman’s second biggest sex organ is her skin. (The first is her mind.) You can make your touch on any part of her body into a sexy caress, but you have to focus on what you’re doing and put some sexual energy into your fingers while you caress her. That means not thinking about the baseball game while you’re giving her a sensuous massage.

5) Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child

Yes, we know it’s fun for you. To her it just feels like she’s got a teething infant hanging off her breast. Lick and kiss around her whole breast before you go for the nipple, then flick your tongue gently across the nipple and around the areolae. If she likes what you’re doing, you’ll know by her moans of pleasure.

6) Biting on her earlobe because you think it’s sexy

She may not agree with you. In which case it will just be irritating for her, not a prelude to her turning into the sex goddess you thought you were summoning up.

7) Leaving a hickey on her neck like a teenage badge of honor

If you’re over sixteen, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you’re obviously under sixteen.

Not shaving before sex

When you’re in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her face isn’t so sexy, but at least it’ll produce a red rash she can remember you by.

9) Not washing your pits and bits before you have sex

If there’s one thing that turns women off, it’s a lover whose personal hygiene isn’t up to scratch. Even though men have a higher smell threshold than women, keeping yourself clean – especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy (like under your foreskin) – is not just a matter of courtesy, it’s a ticket back to the bedroom.

10) Forgetting she has a sensuous body waiting to be stroked

Pretty much the same point we already made up above, but worth remembering: touch doesn’t just have to be in the bedroom, a prelude to sex. In fact, if you touch her a lot in a loving way during the day, she’ll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime.

11) Trying to get your fingers in her underwear before she’s ready

This is the mark of a gauche teenage lover who wants to get to fourth base just so he feels more accomplished as a lover. Take your time, let things evolve naturally, and apply a little sensuous touch on the fabric covering her vulva before you dive under the elastic. The hint of what’s to come is often more erotic than diving straight in there.

12) Dropping the condom on the floor

Must we say why this isn’t the most popular move post sex? Dispose of the condom tidily in a tissue – put it in the bin rather than down the toilet, or it’s likely to float there for some time to come as a reminder of your sexual encounter.

13) Going straight for the clitoris during oral sex or masturbation

Like we said above, most women just find this irritating – and, if you press too hard, bloody uncomfortable too. Your first caresses should be on her labia, the lips of her vulva, then as she gets more aroused, you can work nearer the clitoris itself. But even when she’s aroused a soft touch along the sides of her clitoris may be more acceptable for her than any pressure on the head of her clitoris.

14) Breaking off just as she’s getting to the point where she wants you to keep going at all costs

Women often get so lost in their sexual arousal that they forget to give feedback. In reality, the fact that she’s lying there quietly may actually mean she loves what you’re doing; if so, you should feel her pressing her vulva against your mouth or fingers, or shifting like she wants more touch, rather than giving you a sense that she’d rather be out shopping.

15) Undressing her clumsily

Listen up guys: you don’t have to be able to take her bra off with one hand, behind her back, while kissing her. In fact, in my experience, it’s better if you don’t try. She probably puts it on by fastening it first and pulling it over her head anyway. Let her take off the garments you don’t understand, and whenever you do lend a helping hand, undress her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you’re ripping the paper off a birthday present.

16) Undressing yourself inelegantly – which includes taking your socks off after your underwear

Nothing is more comical (or pathetic) to a woman than a man in his socks and pants. Except possibly a naked man wearing socks. If you don’t understand why, just accept that it is so.

17) Expecting her to shave for you

You might like the baby smooth look around her vulva, but she’s more likely to see this as a prickly route to itchy stubble. Ask her nicely if you’d like her to go smooth. If she says “no”, accept that graciously.

18) Sticking a finger up her vagina before she’s ready, willing and able

In general, women do like to be penetrated just as much as men like to penetrate, which, considering how much men like to stick things up there, is just as well. However, she’ll only want you to do this when the time is right – i.e. when she’s aroused enough to enjoy it. If you’re giving her clitoris attention, there’ll be a point where she might like to have a finger or two inside her. If so, be gentle, and start with one finger on her G-spot. Make sure she enjoys this before you put another one up there. Two fingers on her G-spot is probably as much as she will want. And be just as firm with your touch as she finds pleasurable. If you don’t know what the G-spot is, then do some Google-ing before you get into bed.

19) Entering her without asking her first

What is it with men and these dark, wet places? Just keep in mind that she decides how far sex goes, and if she doesn’t want to enjoy intercourse then don’t press the point. This applies especially to any strategy that involves nudging your penis into position and then pressing forward without her consent, verbal or otherwise! Having said that, you don’t always need to ask “May I enter you?” though it can be a romantic and sexy thing to do if you’re looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that’s most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone’s most popular position for sex.

20) Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can’t find the way in

This is, by all accounts, many women’s least desired sexual moment. If for any reason you can’t get in, don’t pretend you’re in control and keep trying. Simply ask her to guide you in with her hand. That way you’ll save a lot of embarrassment, not to mention time.

20) Pumping away without regard for her pleasure

When you’ve achieved your most desired objective, and your penis is inside her, you’ll want to show a certain consideration for her pleasure. She may want hard and fast thrusting, but it’s best to start slow and shallow. While you’re making love, she’ll most appreciate your efforts if you’re masculine and strong – which is to say, if you act like you know what you’re doing, you’re considerate and gentle at first, and work up to firm and strong thrusts if she likes them.

21) Expecting her to make love bottom up

Yes, we all enjoy rear entry. But she may be more self-conscious of her butt, she may feel like a sex object, and she may not like the rather impersonal nature of this position. If you really want to do it, and you explain to her why you like it so much (i.e. “It’s incredibly exciting to see your gorgeous bottom as we make love”, rather than “I get so turned on fucking from behind”) she’ll probably co-operate from time to time, even if it’s only on your birthday and hers.

22) Thrusting too hard

If you happen to be well-endowed, or she has a short vagina, and you thrust too hard, you may end up banging her cervix. This can make her shriek, though sadly not with sexual pleasure.

22) Coming before she’s got excited or begun to enjoy sex

There aren’t many men who can last long enough to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. If you can’t be bothered learning how to be a long lasting lover, then at least have the decency to keep going for a few minutes so she gets some pleasure. This isn’t hard, and there are plenty of ways you can learn to extend intercourse and not come so quickly. Do some research on Google for “end premature ejaculation”. See also number 26.

23) Not coming at all – or losing your erection when you put the condom on

If you’re one of that rarer breed of men who has trouble coming during intercourse, may we respectfully suggest you see a sexual therapist? You can then deal with this problem, learn to come more quickly, and avoid giving her a numb vagina and an intimate knowledge of the exact shade of color you painted your bedroom ceiling. If you’re one of the many men who lose their erection when the condom comes out of its foil wrapper and onto the head of your penis, it’s back to Google for a search on, surprisingly enough, “losing erection when putting on a condom”.

24) Asking her how it was for her

This is not the mark of a confident lover, so if you really want some feedback, phrase it thus: “Did you prefer it when I did X or Y?”

25) Not going down on her when she wants oral pleasure

Since oral sex on a woman is so pleasurable for most men, this seems unlikely. But if it’s a question of the smell or taste being a bit much for you, try taking a shower or bath together before sex. If you just want her to fellate you and you simply can’t be bothered to reciprocate with cunnilingus, then reading these tips isn’t going to help you much anyway.

26) Failing to give her pleasure if you come quickly

Remember the motto: “Women come first!” As a man, you’re probably going to lose interest in sex once you’ve ejaculated – at least for a while. In which case, make sure she comes through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her. That way, she gets her pleasure and so do you. (With the added bonus that it doesn’t matter so much if you shoot quite quickly.) Just to enter her, thrust a few times, come, roll over and forget about her is the mark of a boorish lover, and you wouldn’t want to be one of those, now would you?

27) Trying to force her head towards your cock

Let’s face it: she’s either willing to give your oral sex or she’s not. Trying to persuade her to get her lips around your glans by edging her head towards your groin is a bit crass, to say the least. If she doesn’t seem to be heading that way as things hot up, just ask her: “There’s something you could do that’d give me so much pleasure…..”

28) Trying to force her head further down on her cock when she’s giving you oral

Yes, once again we know it feels good, but you have to be considerate about it. She’s not likely to be a deep throat expert, and there’s no reason why she should be, since most of the pleasure of oral sex comes from the action of her tongue on your glans. Keep your hands away from her head unless it’s to gently stroke her hair, and you won’t feel the temptation to encourage her to go deeper.

29) Holding her head when she goes down on you

Pretty similar to number 28, but this time, holding her head and moving it up and down on your penis is the no-no. If you think that’s acceptable sexual etiquette you’ve been watching too many of the wrong kind of films.

30) Coming in her mouth without asking her if it’s OK

The taste of semen is very much an acquired taste; unfortunately it’s one that few woman ever acquire. If she doesn’t like it, ask her to keep going until the last minute, then tell her when you’re going to come so she can move back and finish the job with a well-lubed hand. You’ll get just as much pleasure, and she won’t have to gag or spit your semen out. By the way, accidentally forgetting to tell her you’re going to come is not permitted.

31) Thinking that a porno movie has anything to do with real life

Porn is not good for men’s egos. Real life isn’t like that, OK?

32) Switching on a hard core porn film without asking whether that’s OK with her

Even if you find it arousing, she’s not likely to, for the simple reason that much of the porn available today is fairly abusive to women. Ask her first, and if you want to share the erotic thrill of watching people have sex, get hold of some romantic sex movies that will appeal to her emotions as well as her sex drive.

33) Apologizing for the size of your penis

Just in case you ever feel inclined to apologize for not matching up to the guys in the wrong kind of movies, just remember: 98% of women would rather have a sensitive lover than one with a big penis. If you’re with one of the other two percent, you need to find a new lover.

34) Answering honestly when she asks you what your last lover was like

Guys, when a woman asks you if her butt is too big, do you tell her the truth? Enough said. Your current lover is always the most gorgeous, sexy and desirable woman around. Even if she doesn’t really believe it, that’s what she wants to hear.

35) Asking her if she’d mind if her girlfriend joined you

Threesomes can be exciting, but they usually just cause jealousy and upset when one partner unexpectedly finds they don’t want their partner making out with another person. Needless to say, this usually happens to the woman. So be sure, be very sure, you know what you’re doing before you try this one.

36) Making her do all the work

Changing positions is all very well, but asking her to ride you each time you have sex seems a bit one sided. Vary the positions, have fun, and take equal shares of the work. Don’t just settle for one favorite position and flog it to death.

37) Trying to slip it in the back door by “accident”

Anal sex is something that a lot fewer couples have tried than you’d believe from what you read on the internet or see in porn. It’s something you might like to try, but you both have to want to do it. She’s not likely to respond with warmth if you keep pretending you’re poking her anus by accident. And she won’t believe you if you tell her you just didn’t want to ask for directions, even if that’s how you are when you’re driving around lost, looking for somewhere.

38) Photographing or videoing your lovemaking

Unfortunately, as many jilted lovers can testify, taking pictures while you enjoy sex is putting power in the hands of the person who has the pictures. A good compromise is to link your video camera direct to your TV without recording the images. That way you can have the erotic thrill of seeing yourself during sex without having to worry about seeing yourself having sex on the internet in a few years’ time.

39) Getting into the same old same old routine every time you have sex

Above almost everything else (except possibly being deeply in love), ringing the changes when you make love is the thing that will keep your sex life fresh and passionate. You’ll be surprised just how exciting it can be when you try a new position. This is simply because every position puts a different pressure on the penis and vagina, or gives you a new perspective of your partner’s body, or perhaps allows you to see entering your partner’s body, and so on. Exactly which sex position feels most pleasurable will depend on the shape and size and shape of your penis and her vagina.

40) Not romancing her

Women love romance. Men put up with it, or do it to get sex. True or false? Probably true, but the romantic “chase” is deeply rewarding for most men (i.e. seducing and winning a woman makes us feel deeply fulfilled), and romance is an essential part of that process. If you’re able to continue being romantic once you’re an established couple, then you set yourself head and shoulders above the rest of your fellow men, and you stand that much greater chance of getting regular, passionate sex.

41) Slapping her buttocks without checking if she’s into a little dominance play

No mater how exciting you may find the idea, don’t land a heavy slap on her butt without trying a few lighter ones first and seeing how she reacts. If you do, you may get a slap in the face. Or a kick in the balls.

42) Trying to do sex by the book (or the film)

Don’t copy the moves you see in porn films. They lack a certain something. Consideration for the woman, that would be.

43) Playing with her anus before she’s excited enough to appreciate it

When you’re masturbating her clitoris, and you have a finger inside her vagina, you may find that she responds well to a little anal play. If you have the position right, you can use your little finger to tickle gently at her anus as your forefinger plays with her G-spot. This may well add to her excitement – especially if she’s on the verge of orgasm. If you try this before she’s really excited and has stopped caring what’s happening to her, you might just turn her off completely, so it might not be a bad idea to check it out with her in advance.

44) Deafening her by shouting in her ear when you come

An easy mistake to make, especially if you like to have sex in the man on top position lying close to your partner, and you like to let the world know when you come. Unfortunately she won’t let you do it a second time, so bury your face in the pillow or something if you’re prone to uncontrollable vocal ejaculations as well as physical ones.

45) Talking dirty without checking if she likes it

Generally a little consensual dirty talk between adults adds to the excitement. The first time your partner tells you to f*** her hot wet c*** you’ll see what I mean. If that hasn’t happened yet, and you’d like it to, encourage her to talk dirty to you when you’re making love, and see what pops out of her mouth. You might be surprised. Remember legend has it that the quiet ones are often the most surprising in bed!

46) Lying on top of her without supporting your weight on your arms

Always remember: a gentleman takes his weight on his arms. Or elbows, or knees, or something.

47) Ejaculating on her without asking permission

Coming between her breasts or on her vulva or bottom can be incredibly exciting, but it’s nice to ask her first. She may see it less a mark of your ejaculatory prowess or manhood than a mess to clear up.

48) Not controlling your ejaculation

Like we said before, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.

49) Not spending some time with her in your arms after sex

A man who gets up after he’s done the business and sets about his daily routine is probably top of most women’s sexual dislikes. For her, this is a special time when a woman feels very close to her partner. She takes much longer to come down from sex than a man does, she wants to know she’s loved and special, and she wants to feel adored by the man to whom she has just given her most precious asset. The very least you can do is to spend a half hour or so cuddling her while you relax after making love, even if you’re not going to spend the night with her.

50) Not cleaning up after sex

And since sex inevitably involves a certain amount of fluids, keep the tissues handy for afterwards. If you feel like being chivalrous, offer her a warm towel to clean herself, especially if you aren’t using condoms.

There you go! And if you’ve got any more sexual tips for sexual success, send them to us at the email address in the box below.

About The Author

Rod Phillips is an online sexual counselor at Sex and Relationships – http://www.sex-and-relationships.com/index.html , Send your sex tips to tips@sex-and-relationships.com , For more information on controlling your ejaculation, see: End Premature Ejaculation Now! – http://www.end-premature-ejaculation-now.com/index.html.

• Ask her out. Are you saying “Well, DUH”? Really? If you’re involved in a relationship, when was the last time you actually planned an evening out? Make reservations. Show some effort. For the bonus points, make it a restaurant with a fantastic view and make sure you get a window table.
• Massage her. Even just a few minutes of casual massage, her feet when you’re lounging on the couch or her shoulders while preparing dinner will pay off, and she is likely to reciprocate. If you want to go for the bonus points, take a class in massage and stock up on some fragrant oils. Play your cards right and everybody’s naked, oiled up, and feeling happy.
• Surprise her with a picnic under a meteor shower. Pick an amazing spot away from city lights, preferably next to water (just for the ambiance). State parks are good choices. Pack lawn chairs, blankets, food and drinks. If it’s a long drive, book a hotel nearby. Every year, three meteor showers take place during spring and summer, Lyrids in April, Eta Aquarids in May, and Perseids in August. Of the three, Perseids is generally the most spectacular. Stardate.org has a schedule and lots of information.
• Put on some soulful music and pull her into a slow dance. Yes, right there in the living room. For the bonus round, sign up for a dance class together, and then enjoy it. Learning a sexy salsa or a peppy swing style is not only fun, but sharing an interest builds the relationship.
• Compliment her, and be specific. Saying “You look great” is ok, but it doesn’t really let her know you’re paying attention. Instead, mention why she looks great. Does the color of her dress make her eyes look bluer? Is her hair done differently? Is she wearing new shoes? Notice stuff.
• Be chivalrous. Offended militant feminism is dead. Most women will appreciate it if you hold doors, offer to carry packages, and use appropriate language at dinner.
• Scent is sensual. Settle on a signature scent and wear it often. Whenever she smells it, on your pillow, on your jacket, or even on the street, she gets a sweet reminder of intimacy.
• Learn to cook a couple of dinners and a great breakfast. It doesn’t have to be fancy or difficult, just tasty and attractive on a plate. You know how to grill, it’s a genetic trait carried on the Y chromosome. Just throw something on the barbie, bake some potatoes and toss a salad. If you want to get creative, search the web. Anything that could possibly be done to food is online somewhere. For the bonus points, learn to cook her favorite dish.
• Fire is primal. Light scented candles if you don’t have a fireplace. Get a soft blanket, a good movie, and some hot drinks (tea, Irish coffee, hot chocolate…whatever you prefer) and settle in for a really good snuggle. I said snuggle. Keep your poky parts in check unless she starts something.
• Listen to her. Really listen. Give her your complete attention, respond accordingly and remember what she said so you can follow up later.
• Give her small, thoughtful gifts at unexpected moments. You do not have to spend a fortune to thrill her. Women drop clues constantly about likes and dislikes, all you have to do is listen and remember. If hearing an old tune on the radio brings back happy memories, buy her the album. If she’s fond of a current author, find a book signing and get a signed copy of his or her latest book. Put together a video presentation with photos and your favorite song. Make her an origami swan. Mail a “Thinking of You” card to her office, or have a teacup bouquet delivered.
• Hug her. No matter how late for work you are, put your briefcase down, take her in your arms, and make her feel special. In ten seconds, you can relieve stress, reassure each other of your special bond, and brighten the day for both of you. Hug her when you arrive and when you leave, every time.

You don’t have to shower us with gifts, but a thoughtful gift once in a while is appreciated beyond measure. The most romantic thing I can remember my significant other doing was bringing me a single orchid in a Perrier bottle. Sure, he probably picked somebody’s prize flower out of their yard, but it was really sweet, ok? He said when he saw it, it reminded him of me, beautiful and exotic. Yeah, I admit it, I practically swooned.

What we want most is your attention, your time, and your respect. We want to know that you value our opinions, and that you listen to us. And if you think you can pull it off without sounding gay, here’s the most famous romantic poem in history:

She Walks in Beauty
Written by Lord Byron in 1814

She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that ’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellow’d to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.
One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impair’d the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!

Top 10 ways to charm a woman

1. Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional beings and tend to think things through.
“They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter”
They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will demonstrate your intelligence.

2. Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh. Now don’t fret here if you’re not a stand-up comedian. We all have a certain type of humor. You can be dry, sarcastic, hilariously funny, quick-witted or dark. Being able to poke fun at yourself and just plain old being goofy is a turn-on for women. Keep in mind that all women are not attracted to the same type of humor, so if you don’t vibe, just walk away and try someone else.

3. Have passion. A guy who lives his life with gusto is incredibly appealing. When you speak to a woman about your life, your travels, your job, your interests, speak with passion. That passion about who you are will turn her on instantly. She will start to imagine what it will be like when you are involved with her and how passionate you will speak about her.

4. Be considerate. Pay attention to the little things and look for opportunities to make small gestures that show you care. A simple “How was your day?” and being able to listen to her when she wants to discuss something are huge. So many men forget about simple things like holding the door, paying for her valet or just thanking her for a great time last night. Women are all about a guy with manners — she is not attracted to the dope who acts like a caveman.

5. Be honest. “Share who you are by telling her something personal”
Share who you are by telling her something personal. Maybe share one of your favorite childhood memories or some personal growth that you have been going through. Something that will show her that you are a trusting and honest person. It also shows that you are a confident but vulnerable man. Women love to see the vulnerable side of you. Note: Don’t talk about an ex in a bad way here. If you have to talk about an ex, do so in a positive manner and share what you learned and how you grew from the relationship.
6. Be flexibile. Be open to her plans but surprise her with your flexibility. Take charge and surprise her with a fun night out. Instead of being the typical guy who makes a reservation, think about how you can be the guy who listens to her and plans a great date that she did not expect. If you can pull this off, she will be open to all sorts of advances from you.

7. Be positive. If you are positive about life, it shows in your actions. I always tell men to be extra nice to waiters, bartenders and other service people. Be a courteous driver when she’s in the car. When you are in line at the movies, don’t complain. Look for the humor and try to have fun with people all around you. Be positive about everything, and she will find you to be very sexy and alluring. No one wants to be with a negative hothead.
8. Be balanced. Women love a successful, ambitious man. They love that you work hard, but if you constantly put work ahead of her she will become turned off. She will start to imagine what life with you will be like with her needs being ignored. If you are out meeting women to date, you need to balance your life between work and play. This will be a major turn-on for her.

9. Have ambition. Men who are ambitious about what they do are a turn-on to women. It doesn’t matter if you choose to be a rich stock trader or a painter, as long as you are passionate about who you are and what you do. If you don’t love what you do, find something that really turns you on. You can’t attract the woman you want with a negative ambition. Women love a man who is the best at what he does.

10. Be attentive. You are out with her for the very first time, and she tells you she loves a certain type of music. On the next date take her to a lounge that plays that type of music. It is all about paying attention to the details and working on your listening skills.

This list of 10 things will work in most cases. Keep in mind there is always the woman who you just can’t seem to please. If you happen to cross paths with this type of woman, ask yourself, “Why would I want to be with a woman who is so difficult?”
I tend to avoid the difficult, judgmental women. Knowing women’s turn-ons and putting them into practice will help you identify women who may be relationship material. You need to realize that you want to attract and turn on the women that are attracted to you on an equal level!

Unfortunately, since the reasons WHY a woman does not reach an orgasm as fast as a man are not explored, what happens is that the sexual relationship generally develops into one where reaching her orgasm is not even an objective!

Society has a lot to do with this. It seems that women, in general, have been raised with the mentality that when it comes to sex, his orgasm is the goal. As for her, it’s ok; it’s natural that she doesn’t reach an orgasm. And while couples easily accept this, what most people don’t realize is that a woman not reaching her orgasm is actually the root of MANY relationship problems.

 Relationship Problems Caused by Your Partner Not Reaching an Orgasm

 Sexual Frustration. Imagine if you have sex with your partner and you’re never given the chance to reach your climax. That’s a dreadful thought, isn’t it? You probably wouldn’t even call it ‘having sex’ at all. Think of all that frustration inside you that just grows after each time you have sex. Well, it’s the same for women!

 Even though it would take longer for women to reach the point of ‘sexual frustration’, they will reach it one way or the other. And this frustration will manifest itself in many different areas in your relationship.

 Resentment. You can’t blame women for wanting what they see as an obviously great and pleasurable experience for you. If you don’t take the time to learn how to bring her to an orgasm, then she will soon begin to resent your ‘selfishness’ in bed. After all, why should you have all the fun? You may find great techniques here…

 Again, this resentment may start small but sooner or later, it will grow and reveal itself in other areas of your relationship. For instance, she may become short-tempered with you, and you will see this as simply her being annoying or a nag. Do you see how this can easily become a big problem in your relationship?

 Decrease in Sexual Intimacy. For many women, instead of discussing the topic of female orgasm with their partners, they deal with their sexual frustration by turning to other things such as using sex toys or engaging in self-pleasure or masturbation. While using pleasure toys and pleasuring one’s self is not bad at all, using it as a permanent substitute to reach an orgasm is!

 Pretty soon, the act of making love itself will look less and less thrilling for her. After all, she knows she can get greater pleasure from her sex toys and through masturbation than by making love with you. As a result, she will be less and less inclined to engage in sex.

 And now the tables have turned. As she loses interest in sex, now YOU are the one who’s going to start to feel sexually frustrated. Find new ways to recover sexual creativity here…

Relationship Withdrawal. When physical intimacy decreases, overall relationship closeness begins to decline as well. You see, if you don’t make love, you also don’t reach that magical moment called ‘afterglow’, when a couple truly bonds after having sex.

 Think about it this way: each day that you don’t make love, is a day that brings the two of your further and further apart.

 Infidelity. If a woman gets to experience sexual pleasure only through sex toys and by the use of her own hand, and if this makes her lose interest in the sexual act itself with you, then imagine how ‘easy’ it can be for her to fall for another man!

If a woman meets a person who can bring her tremendous physical pleasure that no one has ever given her before, isn’t it logical that she would fall head over heels over this person? After all, in her eyes, it’s this person who truly cares about her. Otherwise, why would he go to such great lengths to pleasure her?

Female orgasms are not often talked about but in reality, a lot of relationships suffer the consequences of women not reaching their climax. So if you want a great relationship, one that’s also characterized by great sex, then the best thing you can do is to ENSURE you know how to make her reach her climax. To learn more, click here…

Good luck!

Iguana: Characterized by cool, dry lips, and a tiny pink tongue, Lizard Lips is about as arousing as, well, a small reptile crawling around your mouth. One victim noted, “He’d dart his tongue in and out at a million flicks per second. Kissing is supposed to get you hot, not give you calluses.”

There is more to kissing than just shoving your tongue in and letting it lay there.

The Excitable Puppy: I don’t know who is telling these boys that there’s nothing hotter than a mid-makeout tongue bath, but I heard from a lot of sopping sisters. “He licked from forehead to nose to chin and back again,” is how one woman described her first kiss. “Like the way my 80-pound Labrador licks my face. Even though it was my first makeout sesh, I knew my companion was cursed with bad skills.”

The Rattlesnake: You know the scenario. . . he’s cute, you’re tipsy and so you lean in lay one on him and, BAM! His tongue is halfway down your throat, pulsing like a piston. “The tongue should flick lightly—not thrust like a video on BET,” instructs Victoria, a filmmaker who knows her way around a liplock.

The Tasmanian Devil: I was on the fence about one guy I was dating until we had our first makeout. His kiss was like being set upon by a team of angry ferrets. A sensuous bite on the neck can be hot, but a series of sharp nips to the jawline, decidedly less so.

The Venus Flytrap: “It was like his neck was on a hinge,” Sarah relays over cocktails. “This gave him the ability to open his mouth about six inches.” I dated one of these too—his mouth would open so wide that he’d cover my mouth and nose, making it impossible to breath. And yes, while I realize the Venus Flytrap is not technically an animal, it eats bugs and that’s good enough for me.

The Skunk: The breath of death was listed as a kiss-killer by most people surveyed. “In my mind I said let me give you the number of my gastroenterologist, or at least a mint!” David shared via email. In reality he said nothing to the offender—he simply never called her again. “I’m a very polite person,” he explained.

The Possum: As you should know, there is more to kissing than just shoving your tongue in and letting it lay there. “The unfurling of the tongue, and then not moving it . . . ” Sarah shudders, too horrified to go on. “Too much tongue is the number one component of a bad kiss,” she continues. “When it fills your mouth and you feel like some cheap bologna sandwich has been stuffed in there—that is the ultimate bummer.”

Kangal Fish: Used in exotic pedicures to nibble away the dead skin on your feet and hands, the KF-style smooch is also quite cleansing. “I had a woman do this odd thing where she ran the tip of her tongue along the face of my teeth, as if she was trying to clean them,” shares David, obviously on a roll. Sarah has also experienced this, and was neither amused nor aroused. “It reminded me of those cheesy Pearl Drops toothpaste commercials from the ’70s.”

As you become more secure in your relationship, you sometimes forget that physical intimacy in the bedroom is as important as emotional intimacy outside of it. You start to put time for sleep above time for sex in your list of things to do.
If you do take time for sex, it is efficient: hit all the right buttons, and you know you can get off and get to sleep at a reasonable hour.

When you are new to the relationship, and new to each other, however, this is not a problem. The reason is that you are just learning about each other.

Everything about your new partner is new and exciting—how she smells, her underwear, learning what makes her tick and recognizing the signs that she’s ready to pounce.

How do you recover this novelty in your sex life when you feel like you’ve both run out of tricks? The key is to try and keep it new. There are a million ways to play in the bedroom—and out of it.

Here are just a few ideas to freshen up a sex life that has become a little stale and predictable.

Share Your Fantasies
Every person has fantasies that they would like to try. If your partner tells you that she doesn’t, it is most likely because she is shy or embarrassed. New millennium or no, women are still taught that good girls don’t act “slutty,” which is to say that they don’t take control of their sexual pleasure.

If this is the case, then you need to make her feel that you will be completely non-judgemental. If she is still unable to tell you, then have her write it down, whisper it to you or share it in an online chat session.

Part of the embarrassment is that she may just not be used to using the words she needs to describe what she finds exciting.

This is one way in which online play can be really fun. Communicating online gives you just that wee bit of distance that might allow her (or you) to come out and say what each of you want to try.

You can try chatting on an instant messenger service or meeting in an online chat room. Make a date to meet online late at night and each of you can share one fantasy. You can decide together on a certain date when you are going to try out each others’ fantasies.

This gives you both something to look forward to so you’re both nice and riled up by the time you can get your hands on each other.

Another alternative is phone sex. Sometimes people aren’t too comfortable with writing online.

Talking over the phone late at night, both of you in bed, can also give you just enough space to be honest (sometimes it’s easier not looking your partner in the eye when admitting some of your screwier turn-ons!), but the phone also lets you hear the sound of your lover’s voice as they purr out their fantasy.

Role Playing
A big part of fantasy play is role playing. In role playing scenarios, you can make things new by actually taking on the persona of other people. Think about how liberating it is to don a costume or a mask and clown around.

Now think of how sexy your conservative girlfriend would look all decked out in a platinum blond wig, sitting at the bar waiting for some stud to come and buy her a drink and then slip her his hotel room key.

Some people like to keep the role playing at home, experimenting with costumes. Many of the scenarios you will find yourself in will play with power and authority. Let’s face it, we all have an inner bad child who needs to be spanked by a hot teacher. We all need to feel vulnerable or powerful in different ways, and sex is a way we can play with those roles.

Sometimes you need to be the fireman rescuing a damsel in distress and sometimes you need to be a naughty boy who needs to be disciplined. You may find that you and your partner each slip into an affinity for being more or less vulnerable or powerful in your play, and this could take you into more daring adventures in the future!

Toys
Many people think that sex toy shops are strictly for gag gifts and lonely singles. In reality, the sex toy game has come a long way, and often the people who run these shops are very open, honest people who are really interested educating you about toys that will help you enhance your sex life.

If your partner is too embarrassed to go into a sex shop, there are many, many virtual toy shops online that the two of you can peruse. You can even order toys to be delivered directly to your door so that you don’t have to worry about running into your neighbours at the local smut peddler.

Along with toys, these online stores often sell titles for erotic videos, books, and costumes (for your role playing!). While there are many women who have mixed feelings about porn, there are some erotic titles and series that contain less of the hardcore humping close ups and more romantic plot (women have sex with their brains—it’s just the bottom line).

Even women who enjoy porn admit that there’s always a part of them that feels kind of bad or wrong watching it because there’s just a degrading tenor.

As an alternative, try ordering some erotic fiction and read it aloud to her (or buy an audio book so your lips are free to do other things to her). Let her tie you to the bed and read it in a whisper into your ear.

The beauty of erotic fiction is that no matter what is going on in the plot, you can imagine anyone you want (including yourselves) in the lead roles. There is no cast of people who have impossible bodies to make you feel bad; there are no actors whose lives you can’t help wondering about: the cast of literature are the people in your head, as you imagine them, not as you are told to imagine them.

The key to rejuvenating your sex life is to break out of the norm. When you are first together, you think about having sex all the time.

Find innovative ways to make it new again, so that you can regain that feeling of having the unknown of what could unfold in the sack tugging at your brain and reminding you just how sexy your partner is.