Factors That Indicate a Bad Date
Even in the most promising situations in daily life, you can often experience
letdowns or big disappointments. The same is true with dating as it can turn out to be
worse than was expected. Because you are dealing with humans and their flawed
characters, anything, including the most unexpected, can or should be expected.
An indication that a date and the subsequent dating experience may not be at all
what you expect, is if the person scares you, makes you feel uncomfortable or afraid
when you are together. Your date may not outwardly show any behavior to make you feel
this way, but your guts, or instinct, tells you that something isn’t right. Because you don’t
have anything solid to prove what you think, you may actually also feel like ignoring it or
thinking that it’s only due to paranoia. But many times when our guts tells us a situation
isn’t right, you should pay attention to those feelings because there obviously is
something going on that you just may not be able to put your finger on.
Another sign that your dating experience may be a bad one is if you have doubts
and uncertainty about trusting your date. Trust is one of the important elements that even
a basic or young relationship needs. If it is missing, or if it isn’t developing, then you
likely won’t be able to have a positive dating experience. You need to trust your date to
confide in him or her, you need to trust that your date can keep their word and you need
to establish trust that whatever your date says, you will be able to believe it.
If your date is disrespectful to others, and particularly if there are times when your
date disrespects you, then you have bad dating experiences in the making. If your date
disrespects you then it means that he or she will be doing things on a frequent basis that
will be insulting to you and which will hurt your feelings. Having hurt feelings and
insults thrown at you is not healthy because it won’t make you feel good about yourself.
And if you don’t feel good about yourself, you can’t have fun or enjoy your date. So
there’s no point in continuing dates or continuing to date someone who doesn’t show you
respect.
A person who is disrespectful is one who doesn’t care how his or her behavior
affects others. That person may also engage in other improper behavior such as being
rude, cursing, and having poor social etiquette. To be in that environment or to be around
someone who behaves like that is certainly not close to being the best of situations. You
should get yourself out and not make the mistake of thinking that the person may change.
Even if there’s the real possibility of that happening, let the change happen first before
you resume dating the individual.
A bad date and dating situation is also one in which the individual will lie, be
caught telling lies and will also be selfish. Again, if your dating situation involves lies or
half-truths, it will be bad because you will not be able to establish trust or to fully gain
the confidence of the individual. If someone lies, you also can’t be sure that what you
know of them is true. If you can’t be certain about what you think you know of an
individual, then you need to end the dating arrangement.
If your date shows any selfish behavior, you also will need to stop arranging dates
because it means that your desires won’t be met. It’s of utmost importance therefore that
you recognize signs that indicate serious faults with your date and with the dating
relationship. If the signs indicate a bad date and you experience a terrible time while
dating, then quite simply, it’s a bad situation and you should seek to end it as soon as you
can.
