Issues that can Stymie Dating
Dating, like a lot of things in life, can start off promising and hopeful. But like
life, it’s not without some prickly problems. There are various issues that can arise that
can stymie or put a damper on your dating.
One of these is if your date is trying to get personal information from you, using
the guise of liking you so much that he of she just wants to know you more, but you are
unable to get similar information from him or her. Danger signals should definitely go up
in that situation if your date is very evasive. If you can’t get an answer or you are always
getting different answers about where he or she lives, then you have good reason to be
concerned.
Your date may always be mentioning for example that he or she lives with a
family member who is very private. In that situation, you haven’t been able to establish a
home address so there would have to be something that is very wrong.
Warnings should go up if your date’s phone number keeps changing and if there
are sudden absences of your date and there are no explanations. Or, if the dates you both
have are frequent for a time and then falls of and there aren’t anymore for quite a while.
If your date has to be away, certainly he or she should be able to notify you. Again, you
won’t be able to put your trust in someone who is here one minute and then is gone the
next minute.
If you find out a big negative factor about your date also, such as a criminal
offense or that he or she keeps getting fired from their job or has committed a fraudulent
action, that is also going to hinder the further development or even continuation of your
dating experience.
The negative factors you find out about your date will make you think twice about
whether or not you can continue to have fun with the person and if you would be able to
confide in the person totally about any personal issues in your life. If you have big
questions regarding confidentiality and trust, your dating is likely to suffer negatively
also. That’s because trust wouldn’t exist and you can’t build any bond, friendship or
relationship without trust.
If there’s a situation where the date seems to be going fine, however you may
know that you don’t want it to continue, at some point you will have to voice that feeling
to your date and it likely will affect where your dating goes from there. It’s important in
such a situation to be open and honest and let your feelings known, because otherwise
you risk leading your date on falsely and setting him or her up for a big disappointment,
at a time when your date would have been looking forward to getting closer to you.
Even how you meet your date can play a role in hindering future dating
appointments. If you met your date inadvertently, even though you may then go out a few
times, the individual can keep putting off more frequent dates and keep you at bay. That’s
particularly easy to happen if the phone is your major means of communication.
But regardless of what is the setback in your dating experience, you need to have
patience and tenacity if you think you really like the individual and would like to see
more of him or her. By being persistent and not giving up, that may indicate to your date
that you have a strong character and resolve, which are wonderful attributes for any date
to have.
