Reasons Having Multiple Dates May Work for You
Having a date relieves much of the anxiety or question of what you are going to
do on a Friday or Saturday night. Removing pressure and lessening stress are also
primary reasons it may be good to consider having two or even three people to date
simultaneously.
It’s important to point out that the dating being referred to is one in which you
haven’t established any exclusivity in a relationship with anyone. The two of you have
agreed to go out and may or may not explore the possibility for a serious relationship.
Given that agreement, it therefore wouldn’t be unfair play to be involved in dating other
individuals.
There’s also the possibility that one type of date could be a ‘quasi-date.’ This
means that although it looks like a normal date, it really isn’t. It could be a situation, for
example, where you know someone who doesn’t have a lot of free time for dates, but
when that person wants to go out on the spur of the moment, both of you make an
arrangement to go out. You both know and are familiar with each other, so its okay and
easy to go out. But you both know that you also aren’t looking for a relationship to
develop into a serious one.
That is different from a real date where there will be much consideration and
thought given to the possibility of the relationship getting serious. So having multiple
dating is acceptable since you may be involved in dating a familiar person in a quasi-date
scenario, as well as the usual regular dating.
But even having more than one regular date can be justified. To get back to the
reason for that, having more than one date is a way to take the pressure and stress from
the situation where the hope is that it will work out with the person and the relationship
will progress to a serious one.
Having more than one date removes the pressure as there’s now more than one
person to consider. Or, maybe you have multiple dates but you aren’t looking for a
serious relationship because you may not be ready, or it just may not be the right time to
enter one. If you are going out with more than one person, it makes it easier to
have’cordial dates.’ That’s because it may be inevitable and only a matter of time before
the expectation or question of ‘where is this going?’ comes to the surface when you are
involved with a single date.
In other words therefore, you can feel justified to have multiple dates if you know
that you aren’t looking for, expecting, anticipating or hoping that a committed
relationship will evolve from the dating experience. Having multiple dates will therefore
be like going out with different friends simply to share time together that is fun-filled and
enjoyable.
Another reason you may find to have multiple dates is a surprising one
