Some Don’ts for Dating
Dating is about getting to know someone. It is therefore a process about
exploration and discovery. But common sense and the norms of society dictate that there
are certain things you can and can’t do, or that you should and shouldn’t do.
Among the first recommended don’t is blabbing at work about someone who you
are dating. This doesn’t mean that you can’t talk about the person to a few of your
colleagues at work or to the person who sits beside you or in a neighboring cubicle. It
may be unavoidable to not mention your date especially after a weekend when everyone
usually starts off the work week by asking, “so, how was your weekend?” If you went out
on a date during the weekend, well, it’s fine to mention it.
What blabbing means, however, is that you shouldn’t constantly, seemingly in a
never ending way, be talking about your dating experience or your date to just about
anyone and everyone. Your work colleagues shouldn’t have the feeling that as soon as
you open your mouth they will have to be subjected to hearing about what you did and
where you went on your latest date, and what you think about the person.
It’s even worse if the person whom you are dating is someone at work or within
the same company that you work. Even if that person is in a different department or at a
different site, it’s best to maintain a high level of privacy about your dating relationship.
Otherwise it is sure to become known to everyone, because even if the person is at
another site, there is sure to be others who will have some contact with fellow workers at
that site.
While you also should not blab about date, you also shouldn’t be telling everyone
about personal habits or ways of your date that you have learned about through seeing the
person and going out. Personal relationships are just what they are
