“When we’re in the missionary position, my husband gets up high so his hips are above mine and enters me at a downward angle very, very slowly. Often he pauses midthrust, and I have the most over-the-top orgasms.”

Why it works: During typical thrusting, a woman’s clitoris generally gets neglected. But when a man positions his hips above his partner’s, he can thrust in such a way that his penile shaft remains in direct contact with her clitoris.

How to do it: From the standard missionary position, just push yourself forward with the balls of your feet and your toes so you’re “riding high.” (Your hipbones should be at least an inch above hers.) Then enter and start thrusting very slowly.

“When my husband gives me oral sex, he also enlists his finger to provide firm pressure deep inside. The combination feels unbelievably good.”

Why it works: Although it seems logical that the clitoris and the vagina would be hooked up on the same nerve network, they actually activate separate pleasure frequencies. That’s why touching inside your partner’s vagina with the fingers of one hand and her clitoris with the fingers of the other hand doubles the amount of pleasure she feels, says Paget. Bonus: Many women like to feel “filled up” when they reach orgasm (having something to contract the vaginal muscles around increases sensation), so two fingers inside can make all the difference when she climaxes.

How to do it: Start by touching or licking her clitoris. Once she’s stimulated, put a finger in her vagina and give her a few firm strokes. When she’s about to climax, add a second finger to give her more to flex against.

“I was with this guy who would pucker up his lips and seal them around my nipple. Then he’d alternately inhale and create a vacuum and exhale to put pressure on my breast. It was the most amazing feeling.”

Why it works: Just as alternating between hot and cold can heighten the effect of each, so can switching between pulling and pushing. “Pushing and pulling activate separate sets of nerves, so combining the two effectively doubles the pleasure she feels,” Paget says.

How to do it: The key here is to be gentle — at least at first. Once you’ve taken a few spins, pucker up your lips and apply them so you create a gentle seal around her nipple. Then take in air from your nose and breathe out through your mouth. Now suck in through your mouth.

Repeat, and keep increasing the intensity.

“My boyfriend puts me in orbit when he gives me oral sex. It’s not his technique per se, or some quirky aspect of his tongue that has me mesmerized — it’s the way he seems to savor every minute of it.”

Why it works: One of a woman’s greatest fears is that she smells or tastes bad below the belt. Allay that fear, and everything else you do will be golden. “When we know he’s totally into it, that alone takes us to another level of pleasure,” says Paget.

How to do it: Catch her eye in the midst of the action, moan, or simply tell her how much you’re loving what you’re doing.

“My boyfriend turned me crosswise on the bed the other night so that my head fell over the edge. I thought he was nuts — until I had my biggest orgasm ever.”

Why it works: Any time you turn your head upside down, you’ll feel a rush as blood pours in and oxygen is depleted. “And this head rush, combined with physical pleasure, can heighten orgasm for some women,” says Seiler.

How to do it: Have her lie on her back across the bed, with her head and shoulders dangling over the edge. (Make sure she keeps as much of her lower back on the mattress as possible, and stop if she gets too light-headed.) Enter her slowly, and show some restraint when you thrust — you don’t want to knock her onto the floor.

“My man puts a pillow under my butt before we get going in the missionary position. It tips me in such a way that every thrust feels a million times better and I climax very quickly.”

Why it works: When it comes to thrusting, angle is everything — when your penis slides in at just the right slant, it tickles her clitoris and makes solid contact with her G-spot. Since the G-spot is on the front (belly-side) wall of her vagina, anything that tips her pelvis back makes that hot-spot contact more likely. That same pelvic tilt also raises the clitoris, putting it in a better position to come in contact with your penile shaft.

How to do it: As you’re moving into the missionary position, slide one pillow (start with a fairly flat one0 underneath your partner, right where her lower back meets her butt. Let her fiddle with it until she’s comfortable, then thrust as usual. Don’t be surprised if your efforts produce more pleasure than you bargained for.

“I love it when my boyfriend hums while giving me oral sex. And when he follows it up with very light finger taps, I detonate.”

Why it works: There’s a reason vibrators are so popular: Anything that shakes, rattles, or rolls primes a passel of nerves for peak sensation. “Any time you touch the skin with something vibrating, you transmit sensation to a wider area than you would through simple stroking,” says Paget. So you’re activating twice the nerves with half the work. “Top it off with a direct touch at the right time and to just the right place — in this case the clitoris — and you’ll probably send her over the edge.”

How to do it: Relax your lips (think Mick Jagger) and hum a tune (think “Brown Sugar”). Bring the outermost portion of your kisser in contact with the outside of her clitoris (the hood that covers the little nub) and her vaginal lips. Move your mouth around her clitoris — very slowly. When she can’t take any more, tap gently and in a circular motion with your fingertip on the swollen nub of the clitoris; or give it a few long, languid licks, staying in contact the whole time.

“As he’s thrusting, my guy presses hard with his hand right below my belly button. I have the most incredible orgasms.”

Why it works: On the belly-side wall of her vaginal canal lurks a quarter-size zone of pleasure known as the G-spot. The reason many women don’t think they have one of these secret pleasure buttons is that the G-spot responds only to firm pressure — and that may not occur during intercourse, explains John D. Perry, Ph.D., a sex therapist. But pressing on her G-spot from the outside while you’re thrusting inside can bring her pleasure place into fuller contact with your penis and trigger mind-blowing orgasms.

How to do it: Since the exact location of the G-spot varies from woman to woman, you’ll have to play it by feel. Start by gently pressing the heel of your hand into her belly button as you’re thrusting. When she screams with pleasure, you’ll know you’ve hit the target.

“My boyfriend has this amazing thing he does on my nipples, private parts, and neck: He licks a small area and then blows on the wet patch. It creates these sexy tingles down my spine.”

Why it works: Remember blowing on soup to cool it off? The same principle governs the evaporation of liquid on skin: Blow it and it cools. Couple the cooling trick with a warm lick, and you’ve got a contrast that’ll make her head spin. “The further apart two sensations are on a spectrum of feeling — hot/cold or hard/soft — the more intense they’ll feel done in succession,” says Paget.

How to do it: Creating a wet spot with water is good, but wetting with alcohol is better. Since alcohol evaporates more quickly than water, it creates a cooler effect when you blow. So bring that glass of wine into the bedroom. Swish some around in your mouth and lick a choice spot. (Try her breasts first.) Then blow gently, give it a second, and take a long, slow lick. Repeat as necessary.

“I love it when my man lightly bites my nipples while touching me down below. There’s something about the combination that drives me crazy with pleasure.”

Why it works: Although the government hasn’t yet ponied up cash for a study of this phenomenon, women and the sex experts who study them know there’s often a direct sensory connection between the nipple and the pleasure nub. “For many women, lightly biting or tweaking the nipples produces a tingle in their genitals, especially the clitoris,” says Paget.

How to do it: The easiest approach is to lie side by side and bite her nipple while touching her down below. Don’t be surprised if she drapes a leg over your side — that just means she wants you to go deeper.

“One night my husband and I were fooling around on the La-Z-Boy and he pulled up a footstool and knelt as I lay on the chair. Then he used the rocking of the recliner to help him thrust. Something about the back-and-forth motion heightened every sensation.”

Why it works: Adding something unpredictable, such as a rocking motion, can be highly erotic. “Surprise is almost always sexy — it’s almost as though the rocking adds a fourth dimension to the experience,” says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Sacramento, California. Also, any position in which your lower than she is ups your chances of hitting her G-spot by helping to angle your penis toward her front (belly-side) vaginal wall.

How to do it: Choose a recliner or rocking chair that’s comfortable for her and a footstool or low table that puts you at the right thrusting height.

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There are millions of sex experts out there, and not all of them have radio shows. They’re called “women,” and they’re a hell of a lot more fun to talk to than your average Ph.D. They conduct all their research on their own bodies, and they’re much more likely to let you in on the experimentation. So here’s what we did: We we went to the women first, and asked them what works best. We’re talking rockets’ red glare here, bombs bursting in there. Then we consulted the smartest sex docs around, so they could tell us why it worked. Now it’s up to you to implement.

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Top 10 Sex Tips by DR THOMAS STUTTAFORD

1 Men aren’t irresistible and not all women are desperate for sex. Good lovemaking starts long before you reach the bedroom, so before any date, have a bath. Everyone smells: some women like the smell of male sweat, others don’t, but no one likes the smell of stale sweat.

2 Teeth are as important as the groin and armpits. Don’t forget to brush them after your bath. When kissing a girl, or even sitting close to her, she won’t want to smell your bad breath or notice salad between your teeth any more than she’ll want to smell yesterday’s sweat.

3 Avoid a heavy meal before sex. Oysters and asparagus are assumed to be aphrodisiacs, but this is only because of visual or olfactory associations. Champagne is a better bet, but choose a less acidic one, lest exotic Kama Sutra-style acts cause indigestion.

4 Be careful with drink. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realises it also affects a woman’s sexual response. More than two or three drinks and some women may be loving but physiologically limited.

5 Any penile discharge or sore, however apparently trivial, means that sex is out. Chlamydia in the male may be almost symptom-free. It may show only as a mild inflammation of the end of the penis, so that the lips are stuck together in the morning.

6 Always use a condom with a new partner, even if she seems as innocent as a nun. Regular partners should still have chlamydia and blood tests.

7 Men fear judgment, whether by colleagues in the office, teammates in the changing room or, above all, by a new girlfriend. Penis size can worry some men. Remember that someone’s penis always looks smaller to the owner than to an onlooker. Women may prefer a medium-size but thick penis but, if a lover is attentive, even if offering a button rather than a baton, it won’t matter.

8 Don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia. Take it slowly. Learn to massage. This can easily shade into great foreplay, especially if your partner is tired or stressed. Use plenty of lubrication.

9 Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her and generally spoiling her. Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones.

10 Both sexes have off days. Most men occasionally have poor or tardy erections and even fit, athletic, overenthusiastic men, as well as the inexperienced and anxious, may suffer premature ejaculation.

Dr Thomas Stuttaford, the Times doctor, spent many years working in a genitourinary clinic

Top 10 Sex Tips by SUZI GODSON

1 There’s no substitute for excitement. The range of lubricants on the market can add slip and slide, but should never be used as a short cut.

2 There’s more to sex than pushing the right button. Men have discovered that the key to female orgasm is clitoral stimulation, and many now rub the lamp rather than poking around inside it. The upside is that women are climaxing more often but the increase in emphasis on genital manipulation has made for some very mechanical sex. Going straight to the erogenous zones is the equivalent of fast forward. Men who focus on left breast, right breast, genitals, reduce their partner to a set of body parts.

3 Though clitoral orgasm is easy to achieve, most women want to experience penetrative orgasm. Intercourse is the ultimate connection between man and woman and the sensation of fullness that it creates is intensely pleasurable.

4 Women are slow burners. They take longer to become aroused and get as much pleasure, if not more, out of tenderness, kissing and cuddling. Though quickie sex has its place, for women on the whole, the longer sex takes, the better it feels. If arousal is allowed to build gradually, it floods the whole body rather than being confined to the genital area and a delayed orgasm is infinitely more powerful than an orgasm induced by five minutes of digital manipulation.

5 Sexual gymnastics are often distracting. Chopping and changing positions and techniques can make a woman’s sexual excitement plummet.

6 Thrusting for hours without climaxing doesn’t make you a stud muffin. It does make the vagina numb and sore.

7 Don’t assume your partner is comfortable in her own skin. A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes. The average woman still spends a lot of time every day beating herself up about her weight and looks. Nakedness increases that vulnerability, so be sensitive to her insecurities and, if you think that your partner looks great, for God’s sake tell her.

8 Be polite. Never nudge your partner’s head towards your nether regions. During fellatio don’t thrust into your partner’s mouth, don’t hold the side of her head – and definitely warn her when you think you are going to come. With regard to orgasm, always operate a ladies-first policy.

9 Put a little X in your sex. Watching steamy movies with your partner will increase the chance that you will have sex.

10 Remember to take your socks off.

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BACKGROUND INFO
Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as “Sacred Space” or “Sacred Temple.” Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female genitals (i.e., Pussy, Cunt, Twat, etc., words which may or may not be complimentary depending on the intent of their usage). In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially helpful for men to learn.
The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through sexual blocks or trauma. Read complete article »