“I love it when my boyfriend hums while giving me oral sex. And when he follows it up with very light finger taps, I detonate.”
Why it works: There’s a reason vibrators are so popular: Anything that shakes, rattles, or rolls primes a passel of nerves for peak sensation. “Any time you touch the skin with something vibrating, you transmit sensation to a wider area than you would through simple stroking,” says Paget. So you’re activating twice the nerves with half the work. “Top it off with a direct touch at the right time and to just the right place — in this case the clitoris — and you’ll probably send her over the edge.”
How to do it: Relax your lips (think Mick Jagger) and hum a tune (think “Brown Sugar”). Bring the outermost portion of your kisser in contact with the outside of her clitoris (the hood that covers the little nub) and her vaginal lips. Move your mouth around her clitoris — very slowly. When she can’t take any more, tap gently and in a circular motion with your fingertip on the swollen nub of the clitoris; or give it a few long, languid licks, staying in contact the whole time.
“As he’s thrusting, my guy presses hard with his hand right below my belly button. I have the most incredible orgasms.”
Why it works: On the belly-side wall of her vaginal canal lurks a quarter-size zone of pleasure known as the G-spot. The reason many women don’t think they have one of these secret pleasure buttons is that the G-spot responds only to firm pressure — and that may not occur during intercourse, explains John D. Perry, Ph.D., a sex therapist. But pressing on her G-spot from the outside while you’re thrusting inside can bring her pleasure place into fuller contact with your penis and trigger mind-blowing orgasms.
How to do it: Since the exact location of the G-spot varies from woman to woman, you’ll have to play it by feel. Start by gently pressing the heel of your hand into her belly button as you’re thrusting. When she screams with pleasure, you’ll know you’ve hit the target.
“My boyfriend has this amazing thing he does on my nipples, private parts, and neck: He licks a small area and then blows on the wet patch. It creates these sexy tingles down my spine.”
Why it works: Remember blowing on soup to cool it off? The same principle governs the evaporation of liquid on skin: Blow it and it cools. Couple the cooling trick with a warm lick, and you’ve got a contrast that’ll make her head spin. “The further apart two sensations are on a spectrum of feeling — hot/cold or hard/soft — the more intense they’ll feel done in succession,” says Paget.
How to do it: Creating a wet spot with water is good, but wetting with alcohol is better. Since alcohol evaporates more quickly than water, it creates a cooler effect when you blow. So bring that glass of wine into the bedroom. Swish some around in your mouth and lick a choice spot. (Try her breasts first.) Then blow gently, give it a second, and take a long, slow lick. Repeat as necessary.
“I love it when my man lightly bites my nipples while touching me down below. There’s something about the combination that drives me crazy with pleasure.”
Why it works: Although the government hasn’t yet ponied up cash for a study of this phenomenon, women and the sex experts who study them know there’s often a direct sensory connection between the nipple and the pleasure nub. “For many women, lightly biting or tweaking the nipples produces a tingle in their genitals, especially the clitoris,” says Paget.
How to do it: The easiest approach is to lie side by side and bite her nipple while touching her down below. Don’t be surprised if she drapes a leg over your side — that just means she wants you to go deeper.
“One night my husband and I were fooling around on the La-Z-Boy and he pulled up a footstool and knelt as I lay on the chair. Then he used the rocking of the recliner to help him thrust. Something about the back-and-forth motion heightened every sensation.”
Why it works: Adding something unpredictable, such as a rocking motion, can be highly erotic. “Surprise is almost always sexy — it’s almost as though the rocking adds a fourth dimension to the experience,” says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Sacramento, California. Also, any position in which your lower than she is ups your chances of hitting her G-spot by helping to angle your penis toward her front (belly-side) vaginal wall.
How to do it: Choose a recliner or rocking chair that’s comfortable for her and a footstool or low table that puts you at the right thrusting height.
